It’s a Vibe, Oh That’s a Vibe

You may often hear people refer to someone or something as having a “good vibe” or “bad vibe” and be totally confused by what they mean by that. That’s OK because in today’s posting i’m going to dig a little deeper to explain and touch on this topic and what we can do to raise our vibrations.

Scientifically, many things in life are composed of energy that varies in both in quantity and quality. A vibration is a state of being, or the energetic quality of a person, place, thing, or thought. Much of reading or feeling “vibes” is intuitive. For example, you can feel a person’s energy from their presence of just walking into a room without them having to even say anything. That right there, darling, is a vibe.

Some people give off a vibe that will draw you closer, while others unfortunately make you want to run in the other direction. As you think, you vibrate. As you vibrate, you attract. Human vibrations are composed of physical matter and everything from what you think to how you communicate. When you are vibrating at a higher frequency you often feel happier and lighter, and you may start seeing that the goals and intentions that you had in mind are starting to flow. Whereas when you are vibrating at a lower frequency it can feel heavy, upsetting, or dark.

Below are some reasons why your vibrations are low and what you can do to raise them! According to Dr. David Hawkins, a consciousness researcher and spirituality author, being aware of your vibrations and different states creates a scale of consciousness. So let’s be mindful and start raising our vibrations shall we?

Low Vibrations and What You Can Do to Raise Them!

Being Ungrateful: Gratitude is everything. Sometimes in can be hard to find things to be thankful for in life, especially because life can be tough and oftentimes challenging. Before I start my meditation for the day, I always find something that I am grateful for. It can be something little, like the weather. Today I am thankful that it isn’t raining. (Haha, not a fan of the rain or cold whatsoever!)

Not Having Generosity: Being generous doesn’t always refer to money, but if you are a greedy person with anything in life (money, attention, etc.) it does not feel good. You can practice generosity by giving back more, or learn to be generous in other ways that do not relate to money. For me, focusing on being more generous with my time is something I actively work on.

Having too Many Negative Thoughts: It is normal to have negative thoughts. No one can remain positive all day, everyday. If they did, they would not be a human! Though it is natural to have negative thoughts, it is important to not let them consume you. If you are an overly pessimistic or jealous person, this negative energy can leave you feeling heavy all of the time. Be diligent about your thoughts, and better days will sure to come.

You are Not Mentally Stimulated: I have noticed that when I was working long hours, going from one job to the next, I wasn’t mentally stimulated. It was part of the cause of my unhappiness. Although it was no one’s fault but of my own, what I did was read more. In the past I often enjoyed reading. Even when I wasn’t in school, just leisurely reading whether it was non-fiction or fiction novels, self-help books or spirituality books, I just enjoyed reading. It doesn’t have to be reading, just be selective on what contributes to the course of your day. Be selective in the quality and content of what you are mentally consuming. You will find newfound energy in your day by being mentally stimulated.

You are Surrounded by Negative and Toxic People: The people you surround yourself with are crucial. Surround yourself with people and friends who support and lift you up. Spend time with people who are genuine and can be happy for you and want to see you do well in life. There’s nothing more draining and harmful than having to dim your light so that the others can shine. Sometimes we keep toxic people in our lives knowing that they are toxic because we love them, or simply hoping they would one day change. It can be tempting to succumb to the feeling of helplessness with no regard for the future, but channeling your efforts into raising your vibrations and energetic frequency is one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself and to the rest of the world.

You are Not Honoring Your Space: Our homes are our sacred spaces. It is a physical representation of what is going on in your energy. Oftentimes I am guilty of coming home tired from work, and the last thing I want to do is pick up after myself or clean. I put it off and will get to it when I have the chance. When that chance arises I am often overwhelmed with regret that I have waited this long to begin! These low vibrating energies make themselves comfortable in your home as they manifest into clutter and disorder! Therefore it is often very soothing and uplifting after you clean your space. After my cleaning and de-cluttering is done, I like to go a step further and burn some sage throughout the corners of my space while clearing out the negative energy that has taken up residence in my energy field.

I hope that this blog was helpful and beneficial to you all. When you learn to love and lift yourself up, you can help bring others along with you on your journey. If you know other ways in which we can raise our vibrations feel free to comment or send me a message I would love to hear them and put out those good vibes to share with the rest of the world!

Xoxo,

Tawny V.

Welcome to the Dark Side and the Importance of Shadow Work

Whether you’re trying to battle your inner-demons or have a dark shadow that seems to follow you wherever you go, the reality is we all have them. Some of us more than others. We all have a dark side somewhere deep inside of ourselves. 

If you let your “dark side”/”shadow” run wild your life can seem uncontrolled and chaotic. Classic shadow signs are anger, blame, and laziness, but it can also be expressed as insecurity, co-dependency, or even independence. These signs can manifest issues with mental health, addictions, negativity, and low self-worth; and left unchecked, these issues will begin to effect the overall quality of your life.

Disclaimer: The purpose here is to help and heal others.

Before delving further, I just wanted to include the disclaimer that I am not a mental health expert nor do I have a degree in psychology. I have read many books over the years to help me deal with some of the trauma that I have experienced in my life, and these books were on topics such as self-help, psychology, and spirituality. All of my readings have touched on the topic of dark sides, shadow work, and how it all goes together. I thought I would share more about what I have read and learned along the way so that I can help others who might be of need. 

The idea of “Shadow” was popularized and studied by Carl Jung who is a 20th Century psychologist from Switzerland. According to him, “Shadow” refers to the hidden parts of our being. These are parts of ourselves that we may try to repress because they make us feel sad or vulnerable. This is a side we often do not show others. It can also indicate how we internally perceive ourselves as “being weak,” therefore we feel the need to hide certain parts of ourselves. Jung believed in the acknowledging our full self, including the shadow side, so that we can live in a balanced way.

Learning How to Confront Your Shadow:

My shadow is the fear of being vulnerable. I often avoid certain situations whether it is in the past or present; knowing that a situation may cause me to be placed in a vulnerable position, I would do anything in my power to avoid it at all cost. I think a part of it has to do with my upbringing and how I was raised. Although I’m not placing any blame on anyone in my family or those who have raised me, I was always taught that I have to be “good” all the time and showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness. I’m thankful that I am aware of my shadows because knowing the struggles and battles we had to fight in order to succeed makes our victories all the more meaningful. As crazy as it may sound, the pain and suffering we see in the world around us are often mirrored by our internal pain and suffering. It is only in facing our difficulties that true change can be made, and the hope of peace can prevail, inside and out. 

Shadow work may seem counter-intuitive on the outside because you will have to face your pain instead of running away from it. The process works by allowing yourself to feel and understand the painful aspects of yourself, so they become fully integrated. I’ve learned that it takes courage, time, and an open heart to face your pain, but these tools learned along the way help in almost every other aspect of your life as well.

Shadow work is an introspective psychological practice that anyone can do and helps lead to a more fulfilling life. When working with your shadow, you may have a moment of spiritual awakening that lead to greater authenticity, creativity, and emotional freedom. 

Some of the benefits that I have noticed in some areas of my life included: improved relationships through understanding yourself and accepting others, overall enhanced state of well-being and mood, better communication with others, ability to set boundaries in every aspect of life, and cease the cycle of self-destruction. 

I wish that you all find your shadow and learn to work with it so we can all live a more balanced and more fulfilling life.  

Xoxo,

Tawny V

 

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